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Let It Go!

shutterstock_96578368It doesn’t matter how long you know someone, sometimes you are just not going to understand that person’s actions. This happened the other day.  My husband and I have known one another for 50 years.  We are having a radon system put into our home and my husband worked himself in a frenzy pulling tons of things out from the walls so the radon man could get to the cracks in the floor to seal them.  Our basement now looks like a hoarder’s house with everything piled in the middle.  The puzzling thing, however, is each time I went to the basement every light in the place was on.  It’s not like one switch does the job.  You literally have to go around this maze of stuff and pull eight little strings to get all the lights on.  I would turn the lights off and the next time I went down they were on again.  So I figured my husband must be turning them on for a reason.  So I asked him.  His answer was “The radon man is coming Tuesday.”  “Yes, but this is Thursday.  Do you want to leave them on until then?” I asked.  He just shrugged his shoulders. “If you want to turn them off you can,” was his next reply.  Okay.  My husband is a smart and rational guy but this was one of those times when his reasoning just didn’t add up.   So I thought, “Just give him grace, and let it go.  Let it go!  Let it go!”  My next thought was hurry radon man as some of the gases may be seeping into my husband’s head.

What’s the Point?

shutterstock_112710460 couple communicationExiting church I heard them debating on what kind of shirt the preacher had on.  “It was a dress shirt,” his wife said.  “No it wasn’t.  It was a western shirt.  It had two buttons and bling,” the husband insisted.

“Well, if you don’t believe me we can just come back to the next service and you can see,” the husband snorted.  “That’s fine” his wife said.  “If it’s that important to you to prove a point!

Ouch.  How many times have you argued just to prove a point?  It was like God tapped me on the shoulder about that time and said, “See you do that.”

James 4:6 reminds us, “. . .God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”  I think that was a clue I need to be more humble.

Love – How you doing in that department?

5444467728_9d139dde6f_large[1]At a recent speaking engagement, we shared with our audience that some of the most eye-opening versus for us, when we first became Christians, were found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.  I think they were so magnified because our marriage wasn’t doing too well at the time and if I compared what was going on in our relationship with what these versus were saying, we were doing a pretty lousy job of loving one another.  How about you?  Listen to what these Scriptures say:

“Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.”

While these versus are often quoted at weddings and referred to as the love chapter, they should probably be mandatory reading, and reflection, on a regular basis to determine how well we are doing. Therefore, why not spend a few minutes reflecting on this portrayal of love in your life as you relate to your spouse.  Evaluate how you feel about how well you demonstrate these in your life to your spouse.  On a scale of 1 – 5, with a 1 being poor and 5 being excellent, how are you doing?  When finished, think and pray about those areas where you want to improve.