Mentoring couples is one of our favorite things to do. I’ve got to admit, however, it has reinforced those things we need to do and has helped our marriage probably as much as it has helped the couples with whom we have worked.
Today while my husband was telling me something, I stopped what I was doing, looked straight at him and listened to what he was saying. Many years ago, I would probably have continued on with what I was doing and hearing him, but not engaging with him. What has turned this around for me is hearing my husband ask couples during our mentoring sessions, “How many people do you know who are really good listeners?” Then, he goes on to tell them he can count on one hand how many he knows. He concludes with telling the couples, “You can be that good listener for one another.” Ouch! That got my attention. See I want to be that one person for him because I now know how important it is to him.