May 2013 Newsletter

May 2013 Newsletter from MERCY

The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY)

               May 2013 Newsletter From The Marriage Education

and Resource Center (MERCY)


Do you think it’s safe to say that spring is finally here?  Hopefully, the barrenness and frigid wind of winter is history.  What a welcome change!
Ever wish you could experience a similar sense of newness, freshness and warmth in your marriage?
That’s the purpose of The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY).  Something we are trying to change in society, and in our churches, is that you only go to places like MERCY if you are having problems.  That is not the case.  While we are available to help couples who are struggling, we are here to help make good marriages better. So we hope you will take advantage of the many opportunities to enrich your relationship and have a smart marriage.
Grace and peace,
Penny and David Hudson


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At the Ultimate Date Night, with Kenn Kington on May 17, about 200 people were able to check their cares at the door, laugh a lot, reconnect and enjoy one another’s company for an evening.  It was a great thing to witness.
Kenn shared some humorous realities and some timeless truths on marriage relationships.  For example, he said we need to know our spouse’s heart and not jump to conclusions.  He reminded us not to sweep things under, but sweep them up and deal with them and to remember the two most important minutes in your day — the minute before you leave one another and the minute you return.  Make the most of those two minutes by physically and emotionally connecting. Good advice don’t you think?
If you missed this event, Kenn has written a great book called Super Husband and Wonder Wife, that we would recommend.  You can buy it on Kenn’s web site: amazon, Christian book stores, or you could just borrow it from MERCY. It has some re-connecting activities at the end of each chapter you can do in the privacy of your home, or it would be a great resource for a small group.


                May’s Marriage Tip

Since we are on the subject of Kenn Kington, our marriage tip this month comes from his book Super Husband and Wonder Wife. 
Kenn said when he and his wife, Heather, were thinking of getting married he asked his married friend Stan to explain why he and Heather should get married.
Stan replied, “Well, if you can’t figure out the first reason, you may have the gift of singleness.”
Kenn assured him that wasn’t his gift and he said what Stan shared helped him see marriage in a whole new light.  Following is Stan’s advice:
“If you are looking for someone to meet your needs, make you happy, and make your life worthwhile, you will be greatly disappointed, quickly discouraged, and basically unhappy the rest of your life.  But, if you will just be the person God has made you to be, and find out how you can give your life to someone else by meeting her needs and making her happy, you will discover fulfillment, joy and peace in ways you can’t even imagine.”

FRIENDS OF MERCY – John and Emily Stewart and employees of Encompass


We don’t know if you saw it or not, but on May 15, The Courier-Journal wrote an article about Encompass, a local development, design and construction company.  They were featured as a compassionate community company.  John Stewart, the Owner/President of Encompass and his wife Emily, who is the Human Resources Director, identify with the compassion efforts in Louisville.

In the article John emphasized  their company has a set of written goals the company works off of – which includes a “desire to glorify God in what we do” and to “pray for each other.” See compassion is part of their business model. And, MERCY, as well as others, have benefited

from the compassion they have shown us and we just want to take this time to thank them for their support. We hope you’ll view this video and read the on-line article.  We think you will be inspired by what they do.

To view their story and the video please go to:



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How to Stay Married and Love It


One thing we like to do is to be able to point you to resources that you may find useful.  So I wanted to share with you a web site called “How to Stay Married and Love It” by Nancy Landrum, author and coach for marriage relationships. 


What better person to help you find your way through a struggling marriage, a floundering stepfamily, a profound loss or a crisis of faith than someone who has walked a similar road?


Nancy Landrum does more than just talk the talk of healthy families and marriages.  She faced the erosion of a marriage, was blindsided by the issues particular to stepfamilies, navigated the pain and loss of being twice widowed, and learned some lessons that come with a child who is lost in a life of addiction.  Nancy could have given into a life of despair. 


She despaired, but did not give in.  Instead she worked to heal her own relationships, experienced significant growth as a wife, mother and stepmother and has now turned this personal experience into a life passion to teach effective communication and conflict resolution skills to others who hunger for loving, functional relationships.


If you would like to know more, go to


There you will find resources, articles, seminar offerings, stepfamily information, a few free downloads and more.



financial stress couple Financial Stress – It’s Not Just The Money – Next Workshop at MERCY

Why do so many conflicts and issues stem from money?
Every couple and family has issues and arguments about money and how to spend it.  It doesn’t matter if they have a lot of cash or are barely getting by.  The couples and families don’t see how these actions are toxic triggers that stress the relationship.
Join us and find out what your money personality is and how it impacts your spending outlook.
This workshop is based on The 5 Money Personalities by Scott and Bethany Palmer.  The principles developed by the Palmers help couples and families understand the dynamics in these situations and give practical information and tools to avoid the hurt and angry feelings.
June 15, 2012
9:30 – 11:00 a.m.
(Note:  This date is a change from the originally scheduled one.)
Baptist Health – Louisville
4000 Kresge Way
Louisville, KY  40207
Workshop Leaders are John and Mary Ann Vanderveer – Marriage Educators
John and Mary Ann led our workshop last year on the “Five Languages of Apology” and the feedback on their presentation was excellent.


Divorce Care for Kids  Volunteers Needed for Divorce Care for Kids and Teens

DivorceCare is a biblically-based support group ministry designed to help people heal from the intense pain of separation or divorce.
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DivorceCare groups are facilitated by church members who have personally experienced divorce as a child and/or as an adult.  These leaders are not counselors, just fellow travelers along life’s journey.
During the 13-weeks of DivorceCare, each two-hour session includes a topical DVD presentation featuring top experts on divorce and recovery subjects.  Sessions also include discussion time so group members can listen and help one another face issues and challenges related to separation and/or divorce.
Rita Ostwalt-Whitfield heads up a DivorceCare group at LaGrange Christian Church in LaGrange, KY.  She would like to invite new volunteer leaders to become a part of this ministry.  There is a particular need for volunteer leaders who would be willing to lead a program for DivorceCare for Kids (DC4K), which is for children ages 5-12 or The Big D for teenagers.  Training will be provided.  These are two great programs that will help children and/or teens heal and find strength to confront, accept and deal with their feelings. If you have a heart for those who are dealing with the pain and challenges of divorce, won’t you please contact Rita Ostwalt-Whitfield at 502-939-8449 or  Additional information about DivorceCare and DC4K is available at  Information about The Big D is available at

 Virtual Marriage Enrichment Groups (MEGS)

A Marriage Enrichment Group (MEG) is a group of couples who get together on a regular basis, perhaps monthly, to focus time and attention on their relationships. The focus of the group is on each couple’s own marriage experiences, not children, in-laws, books, work, or abstract ideas.
David and I have been involved in a MEG for over 25 years and we love our group.  We call ours a Coupletime group as ours normally focuses, not only on relationship skills, but what the Bible tells us about marriage.
Better Marriages, whose mission is building better marriages, starting with our own, primarily focuses on the relationship skills portion.  They now have a Virtual MEG group anyone can be a part of on a monthly basis.  If this would be something you would be interested in, you can join this Virtual MEG group (phone or webcast) the first Tuesday of every month at 8:00 p.m. Eastern Standard Time.
The next one is scheduled for:
Tuesday, June 4 at 8:00 p.m. (Eastern Time)
Topic:  Caring Behaviors
Dial in:  206-402-0110, Guest Code:  367457#
To attend the Virtual MEG as a webcast and view slides on your computer, click this link at the time of the event:
If you decide to try this, we’d love to hear from you and get your feedback.


seeds for success Planting Seeds for Success

We hope you, and your family, will join us and other community agencies on June 1 from 11:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. at the Main Library in LaGrange.
You can sign your children up for the library’s summer reading program and enjoy family activities such as Honey Hill Farm Petting Zoo (weather permitting), KaZoing!, music, food trucks, storybook characters, free health screenings, and more.
Drop in anytime!  Food vendors will be on hand if you want to purchase lunch while enjoying the activities.  This event is free to the public and open to people of all ages.


happy couple Date Night Challenge for June –

Topic Laughter

  • –  What’s your favorite comedy of all time?  Rent that movie for old time’s sake and stay home together and laugh.  You could even rent a holiday comedy out of season (Elf, Christmas Vacation, etc.)

–  Book tickets to go see a comedian coming to the area (Chonda Pierce will be in Louisville at the Brown Theater on June 20.)

–  Set a date night either together or with other couples and play “Whose Line Is it Anyway.” You can find a list of the games from the TV show by simply doing a Google search of the show.  Have fun with the ad libs all night long.

– Take a mini-road trip and do karaoke in the car.  Sing your favorite songs as loud as you can.  Sing the greatest duets of all time.

–  Find an activity neither one of you are that good at and attempt it together.  For instance, you could go roller, ice skating, kayaking, tandem biking, etc.

–  Take out the old yearbooks/annuals.  Go through and laugh at yourself.  Your dress, hairstyle, etc.  Categorize and rank them.  Ugliest hairdo.  Most gaudy dress.

–  Sign up for a dance lesson.  The dance instructor determines the level of fun.  If he or she is super strict and serious, that gives less seasoned dancers something to laugh about. This date will force you out of your comfort zone.

– Spend one hour at an arcade.  After you get over your anger at the price of games these days, try some of the physical games (dancing, basketball shooting, skeeball, strength games).  You’ll get a laugh out of the competitive spirit that rise up in you.

Next plan a laugh date together!  Please send us your ideas.  You can just email us at:  We want to hear about your fun times!

focus Save the Date of July 12!

Save the Date – July 12 for a great date night!
Julia, our new Date Night Coordinator, is planning a
fantastic date night for couples!
Think Seek and Find!


In This Issue
Ultimate Date Night
May’s Marriage Tip
Friends of MERCY
How to Stay Married and Love It
Financial Stress – It’s Not Just the Money
Volunteers Needed for Divorce Care
Planting Seeds for Success
June’s Date Night Challenge
Save the Date – July 12
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”
Ephesians 4:2
Contact Information
Penny and David Hudson
7204 Highway 329
2nd Floor
Crestwood, KY  40014

April 2013 Newsletter

April Newletter from MERCY

The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY)
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April 2013 Newsletter

from The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY)

There are so many exciting things happening at The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY).

  • On May 17, we are working with Crestwood Baptist Church to bring you a fun date night.  You won’t want to miss this. Kenn Kington, professional comedian, promises it will be the greatest date since your honeymoon!  See details below.
  • And speaking of date nights, more are on the way.  We now have a “Date Night Coordinator” and she is hard at work planning some fantastic date night ideas. In the meantime, we want to encourage you to take the “Date Night Challenge for May.” Check it out below.   Thank you Julia for agreeing to take on this task!
  • MERCY will soon have a new web site!  We can’t thank John Baker enough for stepping forward and volunteering to redesign a new web site for us. John is with The Charis Group.  The Charis Group provides e-Presence development and operational coaching for ministries, not-for-profits and sole proprietors. If you would like to discuss how The Charis Group can assist you in your effort, email John at:

These are just a few of the things that are happening and we hope you will stay tuned as more things unfold.  Thank you for your faithfulness to this ministry.

Grace and peace,

Penny and David Hudson


The Ultimate Date Night

kenn kington poster Kenn Kington, professional comedian,

is coming live to Crestwood Baptist Church Friday, May 17 at 7:00 p.m.

If you’d like a fun date night where you will laugh a lot, learn a little and eat great desserts, you don’t want to miss this event.

Tickets are $15 per person in advance; $20 per person at the door.

For tickets or additional information go to: or call (241-8534).

To know more about Kenn, go to

Invite some friends and come join us!  You’ll have a blast!  Kenn says, it will be the best date since your


April Marriage Tip –

Are You Assertive Enough in Your Relationship?

man woman How easy is it for you to express your feelings and ask for what you want in a relationship?

When we work with couples, this is often an area that needs work.  One spouse has these hidden expectations and when they aren’t fulfilled, he/she is frustrated, disappointed or just down right mad.   They think, “If he/she really loved me they would (fill in the blank), yet this person may never have told their spouse what he/she wanted, needed or expected.  They may be hinting or hoping but not really saying it.  For example:

Perhaps Joe wants to go fishing with his buddies this weekend.  So he says to Susie, his wife, something like, “The guys are going fishing this weekend.”

He is hoping Susie will say, “Well, why don’t you go with them?”

And when she doesn’t, he is disappointed.

Instead, he needs to be more direct – in a nice way.

“I’d really like to go fishing with the guys this weekend.

How would you feel about that?”

So the next time you are feeling frustrated because your needs, wants or expectations are not being met, ask yourself if you are being assertive enough in your relationship.

In This Issue
The Ultimate Date Night
Are you Assertive Enough in Your Relationship?
Your Date Night Challenge
Volunteer Wish List
How to Help a Friend Whose Marriage Is Falling Apart
Additional Marriage Enrichment Opportunities
Grief Workshop
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Your Date Night Challenge –

(Take the Challenge and You Might

Win a Prize!)

Dating your spouse is one of the most important things you can do to preserve your marriage.  Somehow once the vows have been said, children come along, work piles up “date nights” take a back seat to all the other obligations.  Then, our marriages often become predictable, boring and dull.  Not a good thing.  In fact, the experts tell us boredom in marriage may be worse than conflict. Dating can be the building block to a better relationship.  It gives couples a break from parenthood, injects some excitement, becomes a channel to express our love, collect memories and allows us to get reacquainted.

Reacquainted?  Think you know everything about your spouse? Answer the questions below and see.  We would also like to give you our “May Date Night Challenge.”  Go ahead.  Take it.  Plan an adventure together.  Send in your ideas.  We want to hear about your adventure. For the couple who comes up with the best “date night” adventure, and can send us a picture, they will receive two tickets to the Louisville Bats game.

But first, let’s see how well you know your spouse in the adventure department.

  1. On a scale of 1-10, how adventurous is our life together?
  2. Would you call me adventurous?
  3. What is the last totally spontaneous thing we’ve done together?
  4. What do you think of when you think of adventure?
  5. Do I have any adventures personally that you feel get in the way of us as a couple (e.g., hunting, shopping, golf, watching sports, etc.)?
  6. As your spouse, how can I help you be more adventurous?
  7. The biggest barrier to adventure in our marriage is __________________.
  8. Some creative ways to work around or overcome that barrier include __________.
  9. When it comes to adventure in our marriage, I feel most loved when you__________.
  10. Did you ever see your parents being adventurous?

A great big thank you to Julia for coming up with this Date Night Challenge!

Volunteer Wish List
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We are thrilled with those who have volunteered to help with MERCY, but we are still praying for additional help in several areas:
Public Relations Advocate:  Have you benefited from being a part of MERCY’s services?  Perhaps you attend our workshops, have been mentored, or were you one who needed help in some way and turned to MERCY.  What better spokesperson could there be than someone who has been a part of this ministry in some way.  If you are good with meeting people and championing a cause, we’d love to talk with you. We’re looking for someone who would be willing to call on churches/organizations to introduce MERCY to them or set up a booth at local events, etc.
Small-Group Marriage Leaders: We would love to offer six to eight week marriage studies based on Christian principles. We’re looking at topics, such as improving communication, better conflict resolution skills, building teamwork in marriage, building up your spouse, etc.  In other words, relationship skills that will help couples have healthy and satisfying marriages.   Have you led a small group in the past and would be willing to lead a study for a short period of time? We understand that you may not want to commit to this long term but if you might be open to facilitating one study, we’d love to talk with you.
Prayer Warriors:  We are in need of folks who will be willing to pray for MERCY.  So if
you could commit to doing this, we’d really appreciate it.


How to Help a Friend Whose Marriage Is Falling Apart

It’s evident that most of us will be touched by a friend or relative who is going through a divorce.  What we say, or don’t say may alter that person’s life forever.  So how should we respond?

Let Your Friend Do The Talking

Allowing your friend to articulate what’s felt will help her sort out her situation.  But listening requires your undivided attention and accepting what’s said, even when you don’t agree.

Don’t deny or squelch your friend’s feelings.  If she says, “I don’t feel like Jim really loves me anymore and I have nothing left to give,” refrain from saying, “You shouldn’t feel like that.”  But be wary of saying you understand when you can’t.  Everyone’s pain is different.

Express Support 

Display a loving, caring attitude by letting your friend know you are honored by, and will honor, her disclosure to you.  Don’t assure her things will get better if she just gives it time.

Maintain Neutrality

It’s important to avoid showing favoritism or taking sides, especially when you are friends with the husband and wife.  Also avoid becoming the confidante to the friend of the opposite sex.  Most people who are going through marital issues desperately need someone who will sympathize and understand, and the emotional attraction can be powerful.

Encourage Your Friend to Seek Help 

There’s no shame in having marital problems.  Strongly recommend the help of a professional/pastoral counselor, mentor or a program such as Retrouvaille, New Beginnings or The National Institute of Marriage.  Links to all these programs are listed on our web site and we have a list of professional counselors we can recommend.

Be Sensitive to Your Marriage

Trying to help someone who is having marital difficulties can sometimes show what a great marriage you have. On the other hand, it can open a door for you to become critical and negative toward your spouse.  Don’t allow negative feelings to spill into your relationship.

When involved with the unraveling of a marriage, although you cannot take away or make decisions for the couple, you can be that instrument God uses to express His love and care.

 Additional Marriage Enrichment Opportunities

Wives will be encouraged to love God and encourage their husbands daily by special guest Pam Farrel, the author of 52 ways to WOW your husband. Pam Farrel and her husband Bill are coauthors of the bestselling Men Are Like Waffles – Women Are Like Spaghetti and cofounders of Love-Wise, connecting love and wisdom and bringing practical insights to personal relationships.
“The WOW Wife” is designed for ladies’ busy lives and to enrich their marriage.
Thursday, May 9 – 6:30 p.m. – Fellowship Hall 2
Southeast Christian Church
Tickets are $10 each
For additional information you can go to:
or call Barb Saylor at (502)  253-8023 or email her at:
love and respect

Love and Respect Video Conference
May 3-4
Lexington, KY
First Assembly of God
2780 Clays Mill Road
Friday 6-10 p.m and Saturday 8:00 a.m. – 1:30 p.m.
For additional information or to register go to:

 The Art of Marriage Video Conference

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May 17-18
Lawrenceburg, KY
Ninevah Christian Church
1195 Ninevah Road
Friday 6-10 p.m. and Saturday 8:00 a.m. – 1:30 p.m.

For additional information or to register go to:

June’s Workshop at MERCY – Change in the date – Now June 15
Due to an unforeseen circumstance, our June workshop on “Financial Stress – It’s Not Just The Money,” will now be Saturday, June 15 rather than June 22, the date it was originally scheduled.  So please make a note of this change. We will still be at Baptist Health – Louisville, 4000 Kresge Way, Louisville, KY  40207.  John and Mary Ann Vanderveer will still be our presenters for this workshop.  You loved them last year when they did a workshop on The Five Languages of Apology and we are sure you will enjoy this workshop as well.


Grief Workshop

The loss of a loved one in a family, impacts the dynamics of a marital relationship.  Therefore, we wanted to make you aware of a new 6-week facilitated workshop on grief for those who are struggling and coping with the loss of a loved one.

May 6 – June 10

Immaculate Conception Church

502 N. 5th Avenue

LaGrange, KY  40031

11:00 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.

The workshop is open to all and gives people the opportunity to share their grief, learn positive coping skills and learn a way to create a “new normal” that honors their loved one.  For additional information or to register, please call:  Marilyn Geist at (502)  548-8060 or Sharon Clark (502)  241-2945.  There is no cost for the workshop.

If at any time you have suggestions, comments, ideas you would like to share with us, we’d love to hear from you.  We are here to serve you.
Penny and David Hudson
The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY)

March 2013 Newsletter

March 2013 Newsletter from MERCY

The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY)
March 2013 Newsletter
from The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY)

At MERCY we believe every marriage can be enhanced and each one is worth trying to save. Our goal is that your marriage, and ours, will be better this year than the last.

We are so grateful for all those who have partnered with us in the past and continue to do so today. . .our faithful financial supporters, workshop presenters, mentors, Coupletime leaders, a new legal consultant and web site designer who have recently come onboard and others.

Over the past few months, however, we believe the Lord is asking MERCY to expand it’s vision and services.  He has provided for this ministry in so many ways and we want to be faithful in continuing to serve in whatever areas we may be asked.  We also know that we cannot to do this without additional help.  So our plea this month is to ask you to pray and see if the Lord may be leading you to volunteer at MERCY. In this newsletter, we have listed some areas where we see a need and are praying the Lord will fill these positions with just the right people.

Grace and peace,

Penny and David Hudson

March’s Marriage Tip


Fellow marriage mentors, Carol and Dick Cronk, from Ohio, recently posted the following tip that we want to share with you.
Dick and Carol give this as a homework assignment to the couples they mentor.  They tell us when they personally use this technique with one another, it seems to disarm their anger.
When a spouse’s spirit deflates during a conflict, often the
wife is feeling unloved and the husband is feeling disrespected.
This isn’t always the case, but according to Dr. Eggerich, it frequently is.  Therefore, when a husband chooses to do or say something loving such as, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way’ he energizes his wife.  When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
Dick and Carol take this from Emerson Eggerich’s Love and Respect For a Lifetime
If you would like to attend a Love and Respect video conference, The Kentucky Marriage Movement will be hosting one May 3-4 at Lexington First Assembly of God, 2780 Clays Mill Road in Lexington, KY  40503.  For additional information or to register, call (859) 255-5400 or go to:

In This Issue
March’s Marriage Tip
Volunteer Wish List
Accepting Our Differences
Kavanaugh Life Enrichment Center
Upcoming Marriage Enrichment Opportunities
Couples in Crisis
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 Volunteer Wish List for MERCY 
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If you are interested in making a difference in marriages, we’d love for you to join this team.  Here is a list of volunteer positions we’d love to have filled:
Date Night Coordinator

The idea of offering couples a date night keeps surfacing.

One of the things we see at MERCY is couples are starved for time to spend together. One particular venue being considered is offering couples/families free movie date nights.  In fact, we were recently approached by someone who said we could even use their facilities to offer such events. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could offer couples/families wholesome movies free of charge, with perhaps free childcare?  Or, offer other date night events for couples? If this speaks to your heart, will you please think about helping in this regard.
Public Relations Advocate
Attendance at our workshops has increased and we are so grateful more folks are taking advantage of them.  But the more people we can reach the healthier marriages and relationships can be, and in turn, resulting in healthier families, churches, communities and beyond.  We’d  love to have someone who could call on churches/organizations to introduce MERCY to them, or to set up a booth at local events, etc.
Small-Group Marriage Leaders
In addition to our monthly workshops, we’d love to be able to offer couples some short-term (six-eight week) marriage studies.  If you have experience in leading small groups and have a heart for enhancing relationships, please get in touch with us.  We need you!
Mentoring Couples
This spring MERCY will be offering training in the PREPARE/ENRICH program.  We strive to train Christian, top-notch couples who have been married over ten years to work directly with couples. If this sounds like something you and your spouse would like to be involved in, will you please give us a call?  Trust us, you will be the one who is blessed.
Crisis Mentoring
Have you been through some struggles in your mariage, yet with the Lord’s help, have found healing?  If so, you just might be someone who could walk along another who may be in crisis.  If  you might be willing to be a support partner to a fellow struggler, we would love to hear from you. Coaching in this area on how to do this is available.
Workshop Coordinator
In the event David nor I could be at one of the workshop events, would you be willing to coordinate details with the hospital, our presenters, bring snacks (which MERCY would reimburse you for), introduce and close the sessions, etc.?
Prayer Warriors 
Would you be willing to pray for this ministry, with others perhaps you meet with in your small group or ones you recruit, for one month?  We’d like to ask for monthly sign-ups beginning in April 2013.  We want this ministry constantly bathed in prayer.
If you would be willing to volunteer in any of these areas, click here to fill out our volunteer survey.


Accepting Our Differences

forgiveness We want to say a special thank you to Irene Justiniano for leading our workshop last month on “How to Identify, Accept and Value Our Personality Differences.”

We had a great turnout and want to thank everyone who attended.  Based on the evaluations, everyone walked away with some very practical helps.

As a tie-in to last month’s topic, I dusted off an article written several years ago called “Accepting Our Differences,” that I hope you will find useful.

“In our bottom-line, results-oriented society, we often link our self-worth to our performance.  But within each of us is a yearning to be accepted for whom we are rather than what we do or how well we perform.


“Unfortunately, many couples spend their lifetime trying to change their spouse into a carbon copy of themselves or into a preconceived idea of whom they want their partner to be.  Most of us, however, have a hard time accepting the simple fact people are different.  We have different personalities, expectations, feelings and desires. We see life differently.


“When I go to the beach I’m in awe.  Surging waves, the smell of saltwater, the warmth of the sun, makes me want to stay a lifetime.  For someone else, the experience may be quite different.  When that person goes to the beach, all he may see is a bunch of seaweed and hot sand that does nothing except make him perspire.


“David Kirsey and Marilyn Bates open their book, Please Understand Me, with these comments:


” ‘ If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me my want is wrong.’  ‘Or, if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.’  ‘Or, if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly. . .’ “


Is accepting our differences easy?  No.  Loving?  Yes.

Kavanaugh Life Enrichment Center

Kavanaugh  If you are looking for a great retreat center, a place for a wedding/wedding reception, family reunion or any other type of group event, we recommend you check out The Kavanaugh Life Enrichment Center.

Kavanaugh is a retreat and conference center of the Kentucky Conference.  It was founded by Bishop H. H. Kavanaugh who had a dream to carve out a piece of God’s creation and maintain it as a place for ministry and renewal.

Kavanaugh offers an environment for experiencing the love, grace and guidance of God.  For a tour or to plan a group retreat contact:

Kavanaugh Life Enrichment Center

7505 Kavanaugh Road

Crestwood, KY  40014

Phone:  502-241-9091

 Marriage Enrichment Opportunities 
worried couple 

Talk that Wrecks Relationships – Next Workshop at MERCY
Have you ever felt like the person you love the most has the ability to make you fantastically happy, but can also send you to the pit of unhappiness? That’s because certain things we do and say have intense power to destroy the closeness we feel to a mate.  The ability to stop, think and be sensitive to what we are saying leads to closeness and emotional connection.
This workshop will identify three dialogues that can serve as relationship wrecking balls.  Join us as we learn how to recognize our own needs for emotional connection and how to help others feel connected to us.
April 20, 2013  –  9:30 – 11:00 a.m.
Baptist Hospital East
2nd Floor – By Cafeteria Seating Area
4000 Kresge Way, Louisville, KY  40207
Workshop Leader – Sharon Shapanus – LCSW/LMFT
There is no charge for the workshop, however, donations are always appreciated.
Registration is requested, but not required.  To pre-register, call (502)  939-0121; email: or visit:
    The LOVE WORTH FIGHTING FOR tour features actor, writer and evangelist Kirk Cameron and singer/songwriter Warren Barfield (“Love is Not A Fight” from the FIREPROOF movie starring Kirk Cameron).  The event features teaching by Kirk Cameron and music by Warren Barfield, designed to strengthen and enourage your marriage.
Sunday, April 21
4- 7:30 p.m.
(Doors open at 3:00 p.m.)
Valley View Baptist Church
8911 Third Street Road
Louisville, KY  40272
VIP tickets – $35
General Admission – $22.50
General Admission Group of 10 or more – $20
For additional information or to purchase tickets. go to:
play date birds

Play Date with Your Mate


Strengthen your communication and grow together as a married couple through purposeful interaction and fun activities utilizing Life Adventure Center’s various programs. Special events are held throughout the year.  For additional information, call:  (859) 873-3271 or visit:

Kenn Kington

Kenn Kington Coming to Crestwood Baptist Church – May 17
You don’t want to miss this event featuring professional comedian, Kenn Kington.  This is a date night for all couples and open to the public.  It’s an evening that provides laughter, fun and enjoyment for couples of all ages.  While there will be plenty of humor (let’s face it, relationships can be funny), couples will also walk away with plenty of tools to grow a strong and lasting marriage. Check this guy out at: and get your tickets now at Cost is only $15 per person.

Couples in Crisis

Are you struggling in your marriage?  Do you fight constantly or hardly speak? Do you prefer to spend more time away from each other than with one another?  Are you on the brink of divorce?  Do you feel trapped, misunderstood, taken for granted, or angry all the time?  Often when couples find themselves at these type of junctures, they think there is no other choice than to get a divorce, but before you take that step, we pray you will first seek serious help.  Do it for yourself, your spouse, your children, your health, and to avoid repeating the past. We understand that not all marriages can be saved, but please do all you can before you take that final step.
There are many resources/programs/professional helps that can literally change the course of your relationship. Is it easy?  No.  Is it worth it?  For us, it certainly was and for countless others we have witnessed, it was as well.
One such program that’s coming up the weekend of April 5th is Retrouvaille in Cincinnati, Ohio. Others where couples have found healing is:  “A New Beginning,”  “The National Institute of Marriage
Intensives,”  “Marriage Restored,” “Re-generation,”  “Save My Marriage,” “Marriage 911 First Response,” plus a host of helps for those who are struggling with sexual addictions or infidelity. In addition, we can direct you to professional counselors who care about your marriage and will help you work through your difficulties.  Or, if you would like to talk with a mentor, who has also been through some struggles and would be willing to walk along side you, please know they are available.  Links to all of these programs,
mentioned above, are on our web site and we encourage you to check them out.   Following is the link:


“If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” – Mark 3:25
Our prayer is that you will allow the Lord to reunite your house and your hearts.
Penny and David Hudson