About ten years into our marriage, we went through a very difficult time. So we went to counseling. For us it didn’t work. Why? Because we came with these attitudes. I was thinking, “If the counselor could just fix David everything would be fine.” David will tell you he was thinking, “Straighten her out and we won’t have any more problems.” Well, we now know that’s a formula for disaster and after several months the counselor told us, “This marriage isn’t going to work and dismissed us.”
Well for us it took a heart change and it took the Lord to change our hearts. Once we came to know the Lord and began applying His principles to our marriage, things began to change. . . oh, how they changed for the better. We know the difference He can make make in a marriage and that is the reason we do this ministry today. David and I began our spiritual journey together and for that I’m grateful. However, if one person is willing to make a true heart change with the Lord’s help, often things can turn around. See when you change, the marriage can change. To begin though you have to lose the “My spouse is the problem and when he or she changes things will get better” mentality. There is no doubt your spouse has issues too, but one must understand that the only thing you can change is yourself. Easy? No. Possible? Yes.