Are you and your spouse competitive? We certainly can be, and it’s often when one of us digs our heels in and refuses to budge that a lot of anger builds up. In our last workshop our presenter warned us of the dangers of going down the “Winners – Losers” highway. It’s a tug of war where nobody wins and everyone loses. What has to happen in the game of tug of war? Someone falls in the dirt or the other team drops the rope. If one falls, the other may feel like a winner, but in marriage, the relationship loses. We need to learn to do it differently. Ask ourselves, “How important is it to really win the argument?” Perhaps the one who is willing to drop the rope is the bigger winner because they refuse to engage in this “Winners – Losers” game. We need to recognize that it’s often a matter of pride. “I know I am right and before this is over, you will too!” Ouch. Not a good road to travel. So who will be the bigger one in your relationship?