We couldn’t believe it when our son told us his friend was getting a divorce. He had only been married a few years. I recall him telling us how unbelievably amazing the wedding was. No expense was spared. “He really loved her,” our son explained.
With the average cost of weddings today nearing $35,000, I can’t but wonder where are these couple’s priorities? A wedding is a day but a marriage is suppose to last a lifetime. How much better would it had been if they had put as much time and effort into preparing for a marriage instead of a wedding. My heart breaks because I believe if couples would get pre-marital education, there would be less and less of these type of divorces.
One complaint we often hear from couples is how negative their spouse is and how he/she comes across when talking to them. It reminded me of something I recently heard that happened between a father and his two-year old daughter. The father said his daughter turned to him and said, “Don’t talk to me!” In return the father explained, “You don’t talk that way to Daddy.” Well, I over analyze everything so I started thinking is this going to communicate to her that she can’t express how she feels? I’m afraid the issue is not so much she can’t express her feelings, but rather how she needs to express them differently. For example, he could have shared with her, “When you don’t want to talk, say Daddy, I don’t want to talk right now.” Or, “Daddy, I don’t feel like talking now.” We’re thinking these type of comments would come across less offensive. Perhaps if we started telling our children, at a very young age, how to better express their feelings, we would have less adults feelings disrespected in their marriages by their spouse.